#Couplegoals has 25.7M posts on Instagram. Click on the hashtag and you’ll see amazing pictures of beautiful couples, having fun together, kissing and enjoying what looks like their best moments in life. This is what you see, but what you don’t see is the hard times, the challenges, the arguments (like who takes the bins out) and past trauma that comes up in relationships. We don’t share this side, because it’s not as pretty and perfect, but everyone goes through it. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. But there is such a thing as a healthy and unhealthy relationship though.
When I was single, I was jealous and envious of Instagram couples. Sometimes I even believed that they can’t argue – they’re just so perfect! While I was falling into abusive relationships, dating dicks (not all, but there was a lot) and losing my confidence because I wasn’t succeeding in relationships.
EXPECTATIONS! Is one of the worst things we can have when it comes to relationships. When we have a view on how a relationship should be or how someone should act, we will always be left disappointed and hurt. Let go of expectations and you’ll be surprised how much it changes your view.
I wanted to share this picture of my partner and I, because what you see in this picture is real and what you don’t see is real too. As always on this platform, I want to share the honest and real side of life.
Like every other couple, we have arguments, we‘ve faced challenges, we’ve had to unpack past trauma. We’ve come up against baggage and we’ve had to be vulnerable. It’s uncomfortable. But we communicate and work through things when they come up. He’s an incredible partner & I’m lucky to have found him we allow each other to be ourselves and encourage each other to step into the best version of ourselves.
So for those of you who are in relationships, I hope this post resonates with you. For those of you who are single, I hope you see this post as a reminder, that we shouldn’t be looking for perfection. Relationships come in all forms!